The Travel Troubleshooter: My fiancé walked out on me — can I get a refund for my cruise?

Question: I was supposed to be going on a cruise for my honeymoon. Then my fiancé — make that my former fiancé — walked out on me. I came home to the house that we both owned together to find all of his stuff gone and a letter not explaining anything except that he didn’t want to get married.

The reason I am writing is that I called Carnival to cancel the cruise and was told that even considering the circumstances, I can’t get any money back, except taxes. Can you please help me with this? — Jennifer Tomes, San Antonio, Texas

Answer: I’m sorry this happened to you. On top of the pain of having your fiancé walk out on you just before your wedding day, you shouldn’t have to worry about losing your honeymoon.

Carnival is technically correct. Canceling your cruise just before your sail date means you’re only entitled to a refund of your taxes and port fees. Had your fiancé walked out on you within your cancellation period (usually about 80 days before your departure) then you could have gotten a full refund, no questions asked.

I wish I could recommend something — anything — to prevent this from happening to other nervous brides out there. Alas, this isn’t a relationship advice column. Trust me, I’m better off sticking with consumer advocacy. But I can’t even offer you any travel advice for your case. Insurance doesn’t cover fiancés who bail out of their weddings at the last minute, so there was really nothing you could have done to avoid this.

I’ve dealt with a few cases similar to yours, and even though technically the travel company is almost always well within its rights to deny a refund, it often shows some compassion.

I wish companies revealed their softer side more often. There are any number of events that can happen, which we can’t control. Those include, but aren’t limited to, divorces, jury duty, job changes, sickness and an unexpected death of a friend or relative. Insurance doesn’t cover all of these situations, unfortunately.

What’s more, we’re expected to let travel companies off the hook when they can’t operate a flight or offer us a confirmed room when the weather is bad or there’s a mechanical problem. When a cruise line takes a hard line, it often smacks of a double standard.

I asked Carnival to review your case. A representative told me a refund was out of the question, but that it would offer you a $509 credit, which is the value of your ticket minus a $50 administrative fee.

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  • flutiefan

    because in my job we have to “bid” for days off, regular weekly days off and even a vacation day. my bosses would laugh in my face if i attempted to ask for a a couple days, much less a week so i could accompany my friend on a cruise to soothe her broken heart.

  • flutiefan

    because in my job we have to “bid” for days off, regular weekly days off and even a vacation day. my bosses would laugh in my face if i attempted to ask for a a couple days, much less a week so i could accompany my friend on a cruise to soothe her broken heart.

  • flutiefan

    her friend already answered that question.

  • flutiefan

    i have to take exception with your “good for him” statement.  what would’ve been “good” is if he hadn’t asked in the first place, or if issues arose post-proposal, then have the decency to speak to her face-to-face. instead, he cowardly left a note with no explanation.  yeah, so good for him.

  • Lindaco12

    I am guessing that she did not have trip insurance, even through Carnival.  If she did then she would have been offered cruise credits right away for an “uncovered reason” (not death, illness, accident etc). 
    Trip insurance through a third party offers cash back for covered reasons only unless you pay extra for the cancel for any reason policy.
    L

  • pizo

    It’s not uncommon for bridal parties to spend $1000+ to be a part of a wedding when you add in all the parties, the dress, the gifts, hair, shoes, etc, etc, etc.  Perhaps the maid of honor couldn’t get the time off work and drop another $1,000 on airfare to the port.  Love for your friend doesn’t mean you have an unlimited bank account.

    You also should realize that while YOU may be able to go on a week’s vacation ith 2 days notice MOST people cannot.  I work in a fairly laid back office and I couldn’t.  My mom works in a hospital where they are currently doing the 2012 vacation schedules.  They have to schedule summer 2012 vacations in 2011, nearly a YEAR in advance. 

  • pizo

    I challenge you to find ONE person out there who is engaged and planning their wedding and has bought wedding insurance in case one of them changes their mind at the last minute.  People do not get engaged without thinking that this is the person they want to marry.  No one goes into marriage thinking they’ll get divorced.  Affairs of the heart aren’t nearly as clean cut or cold as losing a tooth, getting sick, or being in a car accident. 

  • DavidS

    Other reasons to cancel a wedding:

    Sudden death of bride, groom or close family member.
    Severe accident involving bride, groom or close family member.
    Tornado aftermath, earthquake, hurricane.
    Terrorist attack.
    Sudden legal problems resulting in bride or groom’s incarceration.
    Kidnapping of bride, groom or close family member.
    Health department shuts down venue and/or caterer.
    Sudden military deployment.

  • Guest

    Elliott, cruise lines do not refund port charges, only the govt. taxes

  • Guest

    Elliott, cruise lines do not refund port charges, only the govt. taxes

  • guest

    She could only take another person if it was HER card that paid for the trip.  If it was HIS he would have to sign off allowing it

  • guest

    She could only take another person if it was HER card that paid for the trip.  If it was HIS he would have to sign off allowing it

  • Ssheldo

    When Ken’s girlfriend broke up with him, they had an Alaskan cruise booked.  He asked if I would like to go instead (Dutch, of course) .  That was 15 years ago.  We got married a year later and have been happily cruising ever since!!

  • Mark K

    Maybe she couldn’t take someone else on the cruise because she paid only half the total.  While $509 may sound like a lot, if you look that is about what one person would pay for a week cruise. 

    Maybe he was going on the cruise and she didn’t want to be on the same boat with him.  He could have taken someone else with him and there would then be no space for the OP.

    Either way, the credit sems acceptable.

  • Michael K

    a travel insurance policy with a ‘cancel for any reason’ would have covered this situation.

    I believe that’s not accurate.  Can you point to a specific policy you believe would cover this?

    “Cancel for any reason” is a misnomer.   I have not seen any such policy that doesn’t have an exclusion period prior to departure.   48 hours before travel is the most generous I’ve seen.  I’ve also seen 7 days.  In this case the OP’s cancellation was at the last minute (we don’t know exactly how many days/hours) and she could have easily missed that deadline by the time she contacted the insurance company.

  • pat

    Sorry but if no travel insurance with cancel for any reason – why should any travel provider issue refunds?  When I travel I have to pay good money to buy my insurance within a very timely manner to waive pre-existing conditions.  They should have purchased the insurance like the rest of us have to.

  • Rugbypopsie

    Take the credit…book another cruise with a girlfriend preferable a lively one and forget the bum its probably good that he chickened out…he obviously wasn’t good husband material.

  • http://www.facebook.com/asiansm Dang Ph

    If we stick strictly to TRAVEL issue, Cruise Lines  should allow her to change passengers name for another person so everybody will be happy.
    By the way, here is a classical case that relationship broke up after a decision of marriage which is pushed by 1 side having a hunch that the relationship is on the downhills. It’s a good thing that the affair blew up sooner that later so she can limited her lost.
    Love keep people happy together not the marriage which is an outdated institution.

  • DavidS

    Based on the previous comments from the OP’s friend, finding someone to go on the trip or even taking the trip alone was no longer an option.

  • DavidS

    Based on the previous comments from the OP’s friend, finding someone to go on the trip or even taking the trip alone was no longer an option.

  • Arizona Road Warrior

    According to her friend, Kelsey, he walked out just a few days before the wedding…that is at least two days which a ‘cancel for any reason’ with a 2-day exclusion period would have covered.

  • Hcollins

    Forget trying to make the cruises pay for your loss.  Go after the FIANCE
    in small claims court!

  • Michael K

    You’re assuming the absolute best case scenario. 

    1) Even in your best case scenario, she still generally loses 50% of her nonrefundable trip cost (besides the insurance premium)2) Many “cancel for any reason” policies have a longer exclusion period than 2 days.  3) Her cruise was not the only high priority item she had to attend to according to her friend Kelsey.  You omitted: (legal things about the home they owned and just recently had purchased).  She could have easily missed an insurance policy deadline by not calling the insurance company promptly enough.

  • Michael K

    You’re assuming the absolute best case scenario. 

    1) Even in your best case scenario, she still generally loses 50% of her nonrefundable trip cost (besides the insurance premium)2) Many “cancel for any reason” policies have a longer exclusion period than 2 days.  3) Her cruise was not the only high priority item she had to attend to according to her friend Kelsey.  You omitted: (legal things about the home they owned and just recently had purchased).  She could have easily missed an insurance policy deadline by not calling the insurance company promptly enough.

  • Linda Bator

    TravelGaurd’s policy is a 48 hour prior cancel for ANY reason and receive 75% cash back.

  • Linda Bator

    But they DO allow a name cahange, but as stated a few comments above (by her friend) no one could go with her.

  • Linda Bator

    Really?  Then explain pre-nuptual agreements.

  • Mindy

    There are trip protection plans out there that have “cancel for any reason” clauses…it could be a bad hair day or a loser of a fiance…just have to purchase it to be able to use it! I would have grabbed a friend and gone anyway…

  • DavidS

    based on the information provided…grabbing a friend and going anyway was not an option.

  • Scott Kopper

    The fiance who walked away should pay.  Not Carnival.  I don’t know why Chris even posted this.

  • Scott Kopper

    The fiance who walked away should pay.  Not Carnival.  I don’t know why Chris even posted this.

  • Scott Kopper

    The fiance who walked away should pay.  Not Carnival.  I don’t know why Chris even posted this.

  • Guest

    As a seasoned cruiser, I’m very surprised a cruise-line would agree to this credit. The refund schedule is very clearly advertised. I agree that taking someone else was the ideal solution. I had a relationship end prior to a booked cruise. I would have received more of a refund than the woman in this story, but I chose to cruise with someone else instead. It was a wonderful trip and I’m SO GLAD I made that choice.

  • Anonymous

    How about if Carnival sold the space to someone else? Could the passenger sell her booking to someone else?