Honeymoon in hell: “I wanted to leave and go home”

Jessica Kase describes her stay at Sandals Grande St. Lucian as a “honeymoon from hell” and she wants the all-inclusive hotel chain to make it up to her. But has it done enough for her already? And how do you make up for a honeymoon in which you spend “three days in my room sobbing because what was supposed to be an amazing vacation and honeymoon was completely ruined”?

Kase and her husband booked a week at the resort and another week at a Sandals property in Antigua, despite some misgivings. The online ratings were mixed, but another couple they knew had recommended the hotels.

“I should have been smarter than that,” she says. “It was the worst vacation of my life.”

What made it so awful?

There was a laundry list of issues. The bathroom fixtures were rusted, tiles were cracked and broken in showers, and rooms were in more than a little need of repair but a complete renovation. The whole resort I felt was in need of a renovation.

The food, service, and hygiene were also major issues as well. I saw bartenders time and time again take dirty drink glasses rinse them with water and make another drink – no sanitizing. I took several pictures as evidence of my legitimate complaints.

Full disclosure: As a cub reporter at Travel Weekly in the early 90s, I was almost fired for a less-than-flattering writeup of a Sandals property in St. Lucia. (Seems Sandals was a big advertiser in the trade publication, and the review, though it was completely true, managed to ruffle some feathers.) Still, it brings me no joy to report Kase’s story, or to mediate it.

Kase tried to resolve her issues while at the hotel.

I talked to management about my concerns. They showed us a couple of other rooms, but they had looked exactly the same and had the same exact issues. They upgraded us to a suite, but we couldn’t be moved for three days. The room was bigger, but same exact issues.

I wanted to leave and go home. I emailed corporate several times during my stay and they would not respond. I called corporate while at the resort and the customer service agent told me that I could not speak to anyone in higher management and that they were the only person that could help me.

Kase wrote to Sandals when she returned, and was sent a generic response and an offer to return to St. Lucia for free, even though she had promised she’d never stay at another Sandals. She wanted a full refund, and contacted me to see if I could do better.

Full refunds are extremely rare, but I didn’t mind sending her grievance to Sandals for a second look. I mean, it’s her honeymoon, for goodness sakes.

Here’s Sandals’ response:

Sandals Resorts is truly disappointed that their experience fell so short of expectations.

Regarding their stay at Sandals Grande St. Lucian, the couple was upgraded from their originally booked deluxe room category to a one-bedroom suite, offered a complimentary dinner at Gordon’s restaurant and received two complimentary nights to return. At, Sandals Grande Antigua Resort and Spa, the couple was upgraded four categories – from deluxe to a Venetian Oceanview Suite in the new Mediterranean Village which carries a 7-night rack rate of $10,570.

Honeymooners are held in special esteem at Sandals Resorts, where romance and a dedication to couples in love is what the company is all about. Should Mr. and Mrs. Kase give Sandals Resorts the opportunity to host them again, and we hope that they do, please have them contact me personally to make the arrangements.

In other words, we’ve already done enough for the honeymooners. If they want to return, we’ll try to make it up to them.

Is that the correct answer? Probably not.

The company should have acknowledged the issues Kase had brought to Sandals’ attention — the substandard facilities and allegedly unhygienic practices — and addressed them. Sandals could have, as a goodwill gesture, refunded part of the couple’s stay in St. Lucia.

One more thing: I’d like to have words with the travel agent who booked the Kases on this honeymoon, if indeed an agent was involved. The Kases aren’t ideal Sandals customers, which an agent would have known. This vacation from hell should never have happened.

But getting all of their money back? I don’t know if this couple has the strongest case.

(Photo: Fast Way/Flickr Creative Commons)

  • expatinasia

    One word: bridezilla.

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    What a pity..! sorry to hear that. I wish you could get better accomodation in the future. Regards

  • Cory J.

    Thanks for the research Lee-Anne, you were right on with the TripAdvisor review by the Bridezilla-Diva that Christopher writes about. If those photos represent the problems that she experienced whilst at Sandals then she is deserving of the Bridezilla-Diva crown that she’s now wearing. As other readers noted, you’re in a different country with different standards. As well, whether it’s two speeds (slow & stop), or simply ‘island time’ (as I like to call it), you will sometimes find a workforce that is not as skilled or as professional (I said ‘sometimes’) and simply does a ‘home improvement’ type upgrade, which I think the pictures in her review adequately portray. I would certainly expect a typical chromed shower plate to exhibit spots of rust as it is a damp/humid tropical environment. Could the Sandals property have noted and replaced the plate, certainly! Was Bridezilla going to lick the rusted ring or simply get in and take a shower? As for the other pictures, I think she was digging pretty deep into the barrel to find something wrong in order to substantiate her pathetic complaints.

    It would be interesting to see a reply from the Bridezilla-Diva in response to all the postings regarding her complaint. I’m still surprised that she spent three days pouting in her room. One should have considered such minor inconveniences simply as part of the adventure that they were on. As for the boo-hoo-hoo it was my honeymoon and they ruined it, get over yourselves. You said you travel all the time, then you should know to expect different levels of service. There are plenty of people out there that only get one or two weeks vacation a year and they save for years to experience a Caribbean destination. Is their experience any less important to them? I feel sorry for the guy that married her…

  • Natalie

    I really think they did enough. They should have acknowledged her complaints in a more direct way, true. I don’t think there is any way that they are going to giver her a refund.

    But really? Crying in the room for 3 days over rusty faucets and cracked tile? If her honeymoon was so important and something like this could actually ruin her vacation, she should have listened to her gut and gone with the reviews. Not everything was peachy on my honeymoon, but we rolled with the punches and still realized the real reason why we were there.

  • http://www.thetravelinggiraffe.com Crissy

    I would think if things were so bad she would have at least gone to the beach to cry her eyes out, why stay in the room she hated so much. All over some rust and broken tiles? It is a beach property, rust happens. As for the hygiene with not cleaning the glasses, that’s a legit complaint, but certainly not one to warrant getting a full refund.

    But if things were THAT bad that she really was crying in her room for 3 days why didn’t she find a new resort or hotel to stay at. I realize that costs money, but if you’re THAT miserable then that’s what you do. If she had done that then she might have a gripe to get her money back, instead she opted to take all these other upgrades at that resort and at the next resort.

    I wish her husband luck she sounds like a drama queen who was happier with the drama of it all then with enjoying her honeymoon.

  • Charles

    There is another point I would like to raise here. Several years ago we were stranded in the Orlando airport with three small children by Spirit Airlines, who had plane problems, then crew problems, etc. Our 7pm flight actually left the following morning around 10am and then got stuck on the tarmac for two hours in Detroit because they had no available gate. While in Orlando they had to call security because some customers were getting very angry about the continuous delays and lies about the delays. I finally went to the desk and calmly pointed out to the representative they they should realize that those passengers who were yelling at them and causing a problem were getting food vouchers and vouchers for future flights, while those of us who were waiting quietly, following instructions, and not causing a ruckus got nothing. To her credit, they then passed out vouchers to all passengers.

    As I thought more of this Bridezilla story, it reminded me of the frustration I felt that evening. I’ve had problems in hotels that I’ve called in. Some have been fixed and some not. No matter what, I’ve always been polite and tried to either work it out or live with it. Meanwhile, people like this see a bit of rust on a fixture under the toilet, turn it into an international incident, and get upgrades to top of the line rooms. I know the squeaky wheel gets the oil, but sometimes it seems so unfair to me that the rudest, most obnoxious people I see while on vacation often end up with the greatest perks, discounts, and freebies mainly because they are “difficult”.

  • MeanMeosh

    This entire episode doesn’t make a lot of sense. On the one hand, the traveler comes off in the article as an unsophisticated, novice traveler that got taken for a ride by Sandals’ ads and/or her travel agent. On the other hand, if the review on TripAdvisor really is from the same person, she actually appears to be a highly experienced traveler that knows her way around. If that’s the case – why on earth would she stay at a place like Sandals? It sounds from her complaint that she’s the picky type and was looking for an opulent, 5-star resort. A little basic research would tell you that Sandals isn’t that type of place. And also, if she travels several times a year, unless she’s never been out of the country, you would think that she and her husband would know that the standards in a place like the Caribbean aren’t going to be the same as here at home. You want consistency and luxury, get a room at a place like the Westin or Four Seasons, of which there are only about a hundred to choose from in the Caribbean. Seems like we don’t have the whole story here.

  • LeeAnne

    @Charles – I couldn’t agree with you more. These are the types of people who define the term “ugly American”.

    @MeanMeosh – It’s her review, trust me. Too many similarities for it not to be. And you are correct – they clearly travel frequently. In fact, if you look at the rest of her contribution, since she posted that review she’s posted new reviews for vacations to Playa del Carmen, Reno, Sturgeon Bay, and Chicago. Sounds to me like she travels plenty enough that one unsatisfactory week on a Caribbean Island should just be a minor annoyance, rather than a 3-day-crying-jag catastrophe…even if it WAS their honeymoon.

  • barbie45

    Had I read the trip adviser rating with about ten percent negative reviews with about two thousand reviews I would be inclined to go. I can empathize with her frustration.In one of the reviews some mentioned cats being around some of the food places.That alone would completely throw me for a loop. Cats even the sight of them makes me violently sick. Not having a private beach and being hassled by the locals would turn me off. Lack of sanitation and also a beach which is rocky is a turnoff. They should just have refunded their money on the spot. They are very particular people whose needs could not be satisfied with somewhat unsanitary conditions.

  • http://www.roamingtales.com Caitlin @ Roaming Tales

    @barbie45 said “Not having a private beach and being hassled by the locals would turn me off.”

    Actually, I don’t think there should be any such thing as a private beach. The coastline should always be owned and accessible to the public.

    If you don’t want to come in contact with the locals, you’ve got no business travelling abroad.

  • barbie45

    I would like to add,it is very rude to verbally flog theop i n this case or any op whose complaint does not measure up to your standards. Imagine how this person feels. There is a way to express yourself without calling her bridezilla or belilittling her because you woud have behaved or reacted in a different fashion.Perhaps she consented to allow Chris to post her problem which will probably be sydicated in quite a few newspapers.

  • Bill

    Maybe she is a Bridezilla, but rinsing glasses out and reusing them?
    There was not much danger of me ever going to a Sandals resort, but there is defnitely no chance of it now.

    I’m actually looking for a place to go in the Caribbean that isn’t a smoker’s haven, doesn’t rince glasses, and has internet which doesn’t get charged by the hour.

  • Joe Farrell

    if I saw those pictures before my comments – geesh – Bride-Zilla indeed. That’s NOTHING. I will admit that the well drinks are weak, the free food is cafeteria quality [have you checked to see what it costs to bring cereal, common garden variety Cherrios, to the Islands and how fast it goes bad?] and the ‘water sports’ stuff they use is well worn and probably only gets a seriously cleaning after a hurricane – but why would you expect any different at ANY all inclusive.

    Sweetie, if you are as experienced a traveler as you claimto be – you would NEVER in a gazillion years have selected an all inclusive resort for a honeymoon – I hestitate to say it but rave reviews for all-inclusive resorts generally come from the ‘don’t get out much’ crowd. . .

  • Carver

    a few thoughts.

    I am originally from the Caribbean, born and raised their for 17 years. Different places in the Caribbean cater to different types of folks. I don’t know the Sandals and I don’t know what they advertise. But as stated, there are plenty of resorts in the Caribbeanthat use UC paradigms for dealing with guests and other places give a more Caribbean feel. It can be very unfortunate when the two are confused.

    I also give the OP a little more leeway, for brevity, I’m sure Chris only listed some of the Complaints. I’m sure that there were more.

  • http://www.roamingtales.com Caitlin @ Roaming Tales

    I don’t really like the sound of the resort but crying in your room for days on end is an over-reaction. Probably she was so stressed from the wedding that she wasn’t able to properly relax and enjoy herself at the end. I wonder what her new husband thought of the situation and her reaction?

    I lost my toenail on a coral-strewn beach on my honeymoon. It was incredibly painful but I didn’t let it cramp my style for one moment! http://www.roamingtales.com/2009/05/08/photo-friday-paying-the-price-for-turtle-love/

  • James

    I normally don’t advocate violence, but in this case… someone please slap her.

  • Tom

    I liked Sandals when I stayed there. However, many people have learned that if you complain enough, and get a media type to report your story, you will get loads of free stuff. The more you complain and the loader noise you make, the more freebies you get. Elliott, acting as a consumer advocate, really encourages and enables this type of behavior. Lots of hotels are not in a position to weather bad publicity so they surrender rather than stand up against this type of assault. The net result is that we are training a legion of professional complainers who whine and whine until they get something for nothing. And people who use old fashioned manner and just get on with things are overcharged to support the Elliott-enabled crybabies. One way to tell these people are just whiners is they never have just one problem, it’s always a long list of problems. And, of course, they have an expectation that they will always receive the highest level of service. These people make me want to vomit, but whining works — especially if you can get a consumer advocate to magnify your complaints.

    T

  • Joel Wechsler

    @Joe Farrell you are a bit out of date with respect to all-inclusives. In the past what you said was true, but today ther are 5 star all-inclusives that would make any honeymooner happy. One example is the Royal Hideaway on the Riviera Maya, but there are many others.
    @Tom, much as I admire Chris for what he does, I’m inclined to agree with you.

  • Mark Wahlberg

    @Tom, great points you make. I’m sure the bride, in her experience travels, knew when she had struck gold. Seeing a property affected by sea conditions as it sounds this place was must have been like looking at the pot at the end of the rainbow. Knowing she could get her vacation for free or at least at a discount, while getting all sorts of crazy upgrades for free must have been too enticing. And to drag in the media, very nice touch. It’s people like this that make the Slaters of the world erupt in emergency slide releasing outbursts!

  • barbie45

    Caitlan @roamin tales,several complaints were noted by reviewers about lack of private beach. The fact that people were constantly hassled by the natives into purchasing trips,goods etc. Somehow or other that is one group of locals I am not interested in meeting. Public also means lack of security.

  • http://www.roamingtales.com Caitlin @ Roaming Tales

    @barbie45 Yes, I understand why tourists might prefer a private beach. But I still don’t believe that countries should sell off the coastline. In countries like Australia, beaches are always under public ownership. With some exceptions, the same is true of the US states of Texas and California. I think this is an important principle. I realize that the results may not always be pleasant for tourists but hopefully if we can support development of the local economy in tourist destinations, the local people will be less likely to harass tourist beachgoers to buy things. I went to public beaches in Costa Rica 15 years ago and was never bothered by anyone. I remember one guy selling cold drinks but he wasn’t aggressive.

  • http://ericpratum.com Eric Pratum

    Wow, to be honest, it sounds like their experience with Sandals management was not all that different from ours. We had a nice time at Sandals Emerald Bay on our honeymoon until the last day when a few hundred dollars was stolen from my wife’s purse while she was showering at the spa. That was 12 days ago. We reported it to John Keating the General Manager and have gotten the run around since then. In all but one case when they promised to call us back, email us, or take some other action, they have not followed through. Needless to say, this was a really bad end to our honeymoon. My full write up is at http://bit.ly/SandalsSucks

  • http://www.facebook.com/jacob.wadsworth.961 Jacob Wadsworth

    There are surely lots of other attractions to enjoy rather than just the hotel room. She can’t do anything about it so rather than cry out the whole time, she should’ve spent more time relaxing on the beach instead. – http://www.mstraveltours.com/