Accidental tourist? Tips for maximizing happy coincidences — and avoiding the bad ones

Accidents happen when you travel.

The bad accidents — the fender-benders, the missed airline connections the unfortunate food-borne illnesses — are the ones that come to mind first, of course.

Here’s one from Cindy Barthi, a hotel reservationist from San Clemente, Calif. When she returned to the Esmeralda Renaissance hotel, after a fun weekend in Palm Springs, Calif., she suspected something was wrong.

“The valet attendants had some very sad faces as we approached them with our claim check,” she says. “The general manager met us and this is what he showed us: A palm tree had come down on our car during the winds.”

Oops. Good thing Barthi wasn’t in the car.

You don’t necessarily think about the happy accidents, though. Like the terrific restaurant you discovered while wandering through a medieval European town, or that cutie you met on the train and is now your pen pal. We think of these, instead, as one of the unexpected benefits of travel.

But they’re really the other side of the same coin. Accidents — good and bad — happen when we’re away. More so, maybe, because there’s a certain randomness about travel — a sense that the unexpected can happen.

For better or worse.

No one has tried to quantify the happy coincidences, like meeting the love of your life while you’re on vacation or finding a the best hot dog stand ever, at least not that I’m aware of. But a recent poll by the Association of Corporate Travel Executives suggests companies are aware that accidents (the bad kind) are inevitable. More than 8 in 10 companies have a policy restricting the number of executives that can travel together on a plane, in order to prevent a business from losing all of its managers in an aviation disaster.

Sometimes, bad accidents can lead to good things. Barthi’s hotel did everything in its power to make things right, including finding her a replacement rental car and ensuring that her damaged vehicle was repaired quickly. “They even offered us a certificate for two free nights,” she says. (Next time, she may ask the valet to park her car away from any palm trees.)

So how do you maximize the happy coincidences — and avoid the bad ones? I asked the real experts — travelers like you — for your advice. Here’s what you told me:

Be open to new experiences
Happy accidents happen when you are open to trying new things. Michelle Bell, the alumni director for a university in Fayetteville, Ark., recalls a stop on the Greek island of Mykonos while on a recent cruise with some former students. “We stumbled upon Restaurant Katrine and ventured in,” she remembers. “After bringing the typical olives and bread, we looked at the menu and were shocked to see the redfish was €90. When the owner came over with some wine, he said, ‘Oh yes, it feeds probably six of you.’” It was one of the longest, but best, meals I have ever had. I recommend it to everyone.” Had Bell not been open to trying a new restaurant and assumed that the €90 redfish only fed one person — and left the establishment in a huff — she would have never had the best Greek food ever.

Adjust your perspective
Sometimes a different perspective can make for happier accidents. Tour guide Jodi Nelson was leading a group through Tanzania when her jeep blew a tire. She left the vehicle to find help, and when she returned, found her tour group surrounded by “hundreds of little African children who’d come out to see the random white people in their neighborhood.” What could have been the worst day of the tour became the highlight. “They were all singing and playing chase,” she recalls. “It was a beautiful sight and one of the most memorable days of the trip. Thank goodness for accidents, sometimes. Those are the stories you tell because the unpredictable mishaps are what create the adventure.”

Timing is everything
Happy coincidences are often a matter of fortuitous timing. Lisa Scalia, who is also a tour guide, remembers a recent vacation to New England with her husband. They were looking for fall foliage, but they found more than that. “One day he noted we were near Lime Rock racetrack, so we drove over to see it and found out it was media day for an upcoming race,” she told me. “We ended up being invited to participate in all the activities set up for the press — which we were not — like driving on a slick track, driving a road course with a professional driving instructor, and enjoying lunch — all for free, just because we were in the right place at the right time. Very cool.” Had Scalia stuck to her schedule that day, she might have missed the best part of her foliage tour.

One more thing: The line between a happy accident and an unhappy one isn’t always clear. Take the case of professional triathlete Brendan Brazier, who was hit by a car while cycling in, Canada, and had to take the season off. That’s when he stumbled upon the idea of writing and self-publishing a book about his vegan diet and fitness regime. The manuscript featured recipes for plant-based shakes, drinks and energy bars that Brazier created.

Eventually, the book caught the interest of a publisher, and turned into a line of food products. All because of one traffic accident.

So was that accident desirable or not? In the short-term, no. But the long-term consequences were arguably positive for Brazier’s career.

In other words, even a bad accident can sometimes turn out for the best.

(Photo: FishSabine/Flickr Creative Commons)

  • Justin

    @ Chris,

    Without putting a damper on your story, I think the bad instances usually tend to stick with us, because they are usually followed by some sort of loss. Finding the worlds greatest restaurant is a great story and good memories, along with a hot dog stand. Matter of fact, so is a palm tree falling on your car (original to say the least). Unfortunately, it is the palm tree on your car, car accident, injury, etc that always come to mind first. Why? This is easy. All these events tend to cost someone either financially or long term (injury) or worse. It’s hard to forget having to pay out boat loads of money for bad events. I’m sure the hotel will remember the bill for that tree for quite some time.

    Justin

  • http://www.aphra.com Randy B. Hecht

    Great advice, Chris, and great stories.

    My own favorite accident happened on November in England. I was staying with my cousin Patti in Essex, and we drove one day to George Bernard Shaw’s house in Hertfordshire. Patti had called in October to get the hours but had not been told that the historic house was closed from November through March, a detail we didn’t learn until we arrived.

    That didn’t deter my cousin, who went straight to the front door, where her knock was answered by a man who identified himself as the caretaker’s husband. Patti told him, in short order, that I was a huge Shaw fan, had come all the way from NYC, and had been anticipating this visit as one of the highlights of my trip, and all but ordered him to give us a private, off-season tour.

    He responded by giving me a grilling on various points of Shavian trivia, and when I passed, he broke out in a wide grin and said, “Come on in.” But he didn’t just let us explore the place as long as we wanted–he and I shooting Shaw anecdotes back and forth as we went. He also fished out of storage an item that’s not kept on view, Shaw’s Nobel prize, which I was allowed to hold and photograph. Had we come during the season, I’d never have had that experience…which was, without question, a highlight of that trip.

  • Les

    @Randy

    I remember visiting Shaw’s Corner years ago and finding a common interest with the guide. He handed me that Nobel Prize folio to admire as well as Shaw’s Oscar (for My Fair Lady). The plating was worn off the statuette from much handling and I remember thinking, “Well! This wouldn’t have happened at a US National Trust property – all the goodies would be under glass or guarded by bulldogs!”

    As you say, Chris, a long-remembered happenstance.

  • http://www.discovernortherncalifornia.com Suzi

    I love your perspective on this – it is so often too easy to miss the “good” in life by focusing on the “bad.” And being open to the possibilities of any situation – “good” or “bad” – is just another way of looking for the silver lining, which is usually lurking nearby!

  • J&B

    Love this article. You articulated my personal view on travel and life, perfectly! Thank you.

  • Barbara Koski

    Our favorite travel surprise came in June 2007 while visiting Washington DC with our 2 young sons. We booked our capital tour through our senator’s office…a guy named Obama who just declared his candidacy in March. The office was very busy & kind of messed up our reservation so we ended up getting a personalized tour with a great college kid who then gave us a personal tour of the senator’s office…adding “take a look around but don’t sit in his chair”…like I would do that :-) Anyway, as we were leaving I picked up a card advertising a coffee & donuts meet & greet for IL residents the next morning at 8am. We would have to adjust our schedule but decided to go. We ended up meeting & shaking hands with both Senator Durbin and the future president and now have a family portrait with them hanging in a place of honor. If I hadn’t picked that card up……