Is this enough compensation? Assaulted on my flight — and then ignored

Dana LaRue says she was sexually assaulted on a Spirit Airlines flight from Los Angeles to Chicago.

Her story may sound familiar because LaRue publishes a popular bridal blog, and it’s been picked up by several other media outlets. What you might not know is that, at the urging of my readers, I’ve been trying to help her get in touch with Spirit to resolve her complaint.

Before I explain why I got involved in this case, let’s hit the highlights.

LaRue says she was sitting next to a man named “Jim” who waited until after she fell asleep to make his move.

I awoke at one point to feel Jim’s hand … high on my upper, inner thigh. I thought it possible that it slipped down there while he was asleep, given the narrow nature of the seats on the craft, so I moved my leg away and went back to sleep.

A while later, I awoke to find him pressed up against my arm, one hand on my leg, the other hand fumbling around my breasts.

Highly inappropriate, to say the least.

You’d think LaRue would scream bloody murder. But she didn’t.

I was paralyzed with confusion and fear. I startled physically, hard enough that he removed his hands and shifted away. I couldn’t bring myself look at him. I couldn’t believe what was happening.

LaRue waited until the flight ended to report the alleged assault.

Spirit’s response? “I am sorry for the inconvenience, but because you failed to report it in-flight, there is nothing we can do for you,” a representative told her.

That really set LaRue off. She blogged about the incident, generating a firestorm of anger toward Spirit and sympathy for her.

It’s too easy to be the Monday morning quarterback on LaRue’s case. Yes, she should have said something sooner. And for future reference — and in case anyone is reading this who may be the future target of a sexual predator — report the incident immediately if you can.

But the problem, as I saw it, was that LaRue wasn’t really talking to Spirit, and Spirit wasn’t really talking to LaRue. The blogger was trying to spread the word about her alleged assault, and Spirit was sending her form responses. I thought I might help them connect in a more meaningful way.

I asked LaRue to tell me how Spirit could fix this.

She asked for Spirit to formally apologize for its representatives’ “insensitivity and delay in response to me.” LaRue also asked Spirit to say what it intends to do to prevent this kind of thing from happening in the future.

She asked to be rebooked on another return flight, to be compensated for the lost work ($1,800) and for the airline to cover her therapy bills ($220).

I passed these demands along to Spirit without comment.

The initial response from Spirit was promising. It offered to refund her return flights and sent her a non-form response saying it was considering the rest.

I have received your email. I am not authorized to approve everything you’ve requested, but I will get back to you.

Again, I am truly sorry that you had such a terrifying experience.

But later, Spirit refused to rebook her on another airline, and signaled it wouldn’t meet any of her other demands. I made several attempt to communicate with Spirit on LaRue’s behalf, but couldn’t connect with the airline, presumably because of the hurricane.

LaRue was frustrated.

While its reassuring that I won’t have to put my or my family’s safety in their hands, I’m still left with this vacuum of pain and loss and anger.

I still feel they should do more to make this right, beyond these refunds and potentially paying the difference to book onto different airlines.

I feel like this is just a poor pacification to protect their public relations. To shut up a mouthy girl like me.

Did Spirit do enough by refunding her nonrefundable fare and apologizing to her? Or should it have done more?

My initial response to this case is that Spirit can’t be held responsible for the actions of one of its passengers. But on reflection, I’m not sure. Some might say Spirit’s risque ad campaigns give passengers like “Jim” a license to grab any female passenger he wants, without consequence.

  • Lindaj

    First and foremost she should have immediately informed the crew as to what was happening.  That’s it pure and simple!!!  Why would she sit there and not say a word?  I just don’t get it!  I’m sure this guess has and will do it again and he escaped getting caught once again!  I’m sorry I can’t buy into her compensation. 

  • Guest

    I started to vote ‘yes’ until I looked at the ad campaigns Spirit runs. If the FA union needed to get involved in pulling misogynistic ads, then it seems as if there is a culture at Spirit that needs to change. Affecting the bottom line is one effective way of causing company changes. One person getting a better compensation won’t hurt Spirit any, but the PR might.

  • Guest

    I started to vote ‘yes’ until I looked at the ad campaigns Spirit runs. If the FA union needed to get involved in pulling misogynistic ads, then it seems as if there is a culture at Spirit that needs to change. Affecting the bottom line is one effective way of causing company changes. One person getting a better compensation won’t hurt Spirit any, but the PR might.

  • DavidS

    Spirit doesn’t care about bad PR. About a complaint several years ago their CEO once said “Let him tell the world how bad we are. He’s never flown us before anyway and will be back when we save him a penny.”

    The still fly full.

  • Anonymous

    I’m confused about Spirit needing to refund her ticket.  It wasn’t their fault and she didn’t give them a chance to adequately resolve the matter.

    Frankly, I think if Spirit were to give her a refund it would set a bad precedent–she would most certainly blog about the refund and then perhaps Spirit would be deluged with “after the incident” reports from pax looking for a free ticket.

  • Anonymous

    I have often wondered why Chris gives the full name of those he may help.  If I had a travel complaint I wouldn’t feel comfortable having my first and last name on a blog post.  First name and last initial yes–but not my full name.

  • dillon york

    So if JIM grabs a 14 yr old girls tits then she should wait too?  How about if JIM grabs a 10 yr old boys crotch?  If she was that upset about it she should have screamed bloody murderer and had the guy ARRESTED when he got off the plane.  But she does want a free flight and $$$ for a therapist.  What she needs to realize is that her head is on backwards.  CALL THE COPS AND FILE A COMPLAINT AGAINST JIM. He did the touching NOT SPIRIT

  • DILLONYORK

    The police do not need his name.  THEY CAN AREST HIM.  The crew had no idea that she allowed it to happen a 2nd time by not saying anything.  If she got up and said something she could have been in a different seat or switched with a 300 lb hairy guy that JIM could feel upand then take a hit from.  SHE LET IT HAPPEN BY NOT SAYING ANYTHING UNTIL SHE WANTED THE  $$$$$$$

  • http://elliott.org Christopher Elliott

    I have a policy of using full names on this site, which I almost always adhere to (I can point to a few examples when I didn’t, and regretted it). 

    Dana never indicated to me that she didn’t want me to write about her case or had a problem using her full name. She hasn’t gone on the offensive on her Twitter account or her blog, so I’m really doubtful this is the real Dana.

  • DavidS

    Dillon, if you read her blog, she was looking for “compassion” from Spirit AFTER calling their 800 number AFTER leaving the aiport. She didn’t feel she got compassion and NOW wants $$$. 

    She has contacted the police but was too consumed with ranting about Spirit’s poor customer service she neglected to say if she followed up with the police…but did indicate they were compassionate.

    The police DO need his name if they want to arrest him or at least follow up on the complaint now. An airline can only do that with a court order.

     

  • http://profiles.google.com/leeannewrites LeeAnne Clark

    I highly doubt this is her.  Anybody can put any name they want on these comments. 

    As for using her name, she gave up the right to anonymity when she posted all about her experience on her own blog.  It would certainly be silly to write an article about her and NOT use her name, yet include a link to her own story in which she openly identifies herself!

  • Faux_Dana

    Sarcasm anyone?

  • Raven

    I meant they owe her the guy’s name only if she gets the law/courts involved.

  • djp

    Am I missing something…as I qeite this I have not read through the 113 or so postings….but one thing is readily apparent…

    Why didnt she report this to police?  The airline has a flight manifest so the name of the person would be known.

    There were witnesses on the plane probably…also on the planes manifest.

    At the minimum the airline should have a policy in place in handling such a case.  

    It doesnt matter this wasnt reported till the flight landed and deplaned. 

    The airline is responsible for the safety of the passangers.   The airline is in just as much responsibility as if there was a plane crash.

    At minuimum Spirit could have reported this to the airport authorities who then could have taken action.

    I understand the fear of reporting such a crime while in a plane because he is there in the plane with you and you cant get away.

  • S.D.

    Chris, did you really suggest an ad campaign, no matter how tasteless, is partially responsible for someone sexually assaulting another passenger?

  • Anonymous

    Chris, I am curious why you have this policy?  

  • Patsy

    And again…the fault lies with the attacker, not with the airline who did not even know the attack was going on!

  • Patsy

    How did she know that?  While he was groping her, did she ask him?

  • Patsy

    Liable for what?

  • Patsy

    Spirit didn’t even know it until after the passengers had deplaned…where’s the license?

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Linda-Loudermilk-Tomberlin/1344557368 Linda Loudermilk Tomberlin

    How exactly was the airline at fault for a passenger’s behavior when they knew nothing about the incident until the plane landed??  Sprint has done more than enough.  Her case is against the other passenger, and since she did nothing, and he’s long gone, the case is moot.

  • MichelleLV

    I’m with Spirit on this one.  They didn’t do anything wrong.   Can’t believe I just typed that.    They don’t owe her an apology, and they definitely do not owe her any money.   I would need therapy too if I let someone grope me TWICE and didn’t say anything.  Sorry but she made the mistake of being “frozen” and any costs she incurs like missed work or therapy bills are her own responsibility.  

    Now had she been groped and informed the airline, then they should be responsible for moving her to a safer location for the duration of the flight.  Also to notify the authorities before landing.  She failed to report the crime.   

  • Sarah Klein

    What responsibility? Enlighten us.

  • Sarah Klein

    What responsibility? Enlighten us.

  • Clare

    Adele, this is amazing, because when I read this article, it instantly reminded me of a girlfriend years ago who was on the DC metro and felt this perv touching her.  At first she thought he was just brushing up against her innocently and so she moved a little to give him space; it was only when he did it again that she realized it was deliberate.
    And what did she do?  Nothing.  She was, in a word, paralyzed.  She was (she told me later) too embarassed to speak up, as if it was somehow her fault!  I would probably have reacted in exactly the same way.
    Wouldn’t it be ironic if you both were dealing with the same DC metro perv?  There he is, out there on the metro pawing women, and unfortunately getting away with it because our natural female instinct is, in many cases, to be embarassed and say nothing.
    I guess this buttresses the point of many here, who are saying SCREAM and make a scene, even if it goes against your inner instinct–because that’s the only way these creeps will ever stop! 

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1556838763 Nancy Marine Dickinson

    Actually, Clare, it’s not embarrassment so much as it’s being raised to be “polite”.  Pervs like this count on a person’s discomfort at creating a scene in a public place.  It’s the same with people who treat others poorly in public (such as an employee at a store, whatever).  They KNOW you won’t say anything because you were raised to not cause a ruckus in public.  (remember when we were all kids and our parents told us to behave ourselves in church, a restaurant, etc?)

  • http://profiles.google.com/leeannewrites LeeAnne Clark

    And allowing that fear of embarrassment or desire to be “polite” to cause you let a perv get away with assault is a crime in itself.  By letting the assaulter go, you are doing a disservice to every other woman out there that this criminal will encounter.

    There is simply no excuse to put “being polite” above stopping a sexual criminal.  If someone saw a child being pulled into an alleyway with a knife to her throat, would someone keep quiet about it so as not to cause a ruckus?

    That’s what I’m seeing sprinkled throughout this thread – people essentially forgiving the OP for keeping her assault to herself and allowing him to escape.  There is no excuse.  She needed to overcome her fear and STAND UP SCREAM.  When a crime is being committed, allowing the criminal to commit his crime and escape makes you a party to it.

  • cjr

     ”while it was still possible to identify him,”

    The man was seated next to her on a plane. That definitively narrows the list of suspects down in a hurry.

  • Raven Altosk

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  • Rcwally_80303

    Really, I don’t think this is Spirit’s problem anyway.  If I woke up and someone other than my husband was fondling my leg, he would be bent over and curled up faster than you can say hey!  This lady may have been discombobulated when she woke up but she should have screamed bloody murder!  She is after Spirit to make up for something that wasn’t their fault.  I don’t stand up for the airlines too often, but in this case, she handled this whole thing incorrectly. 

  • Linda Bator

    No they are NOT a third party.  They are direct response teams, as are ALL the police who would have been contacted before the landing, or at the airport.  Calling RESERVATIONS afterwards is the 3rd party with NO KNOWLEDGE of the event, NO OPTIONS to assist, and NO WAY to accommodate this woman.  THAT’s what is ridiculous!

  • Linda Bator

    Not after she has already left the airport and GONE HOME!

  • Linda Bator

    Not after she has already left the airport and GONE HOME!

  • Ajaynejr

    Here I would say she is not entitled to anything more.

    She should have complained immediately when the alleged assault took place. After that moment the airline would then be obligated to take action. Only if the airline failed to take appropriate action would the airline be aiding and abetting the assailanty.

    Appropriate action can include giving up a crew rest seat to reseat someone, or seating someone in a crew jumpseat. Appropriate action can include restraining an uncooperative person or a person observed to engage in bad behavior.

    By the way, “There is nothing we can do” is usually an outright lie.

  • Decent_American

    She chose to fly on Spirit, like the quote from AIRPLANE, “She bought the ticket, she knew what she was getting into” – Ghetto airlines breed ghetto passengers, maybe she should have shelled out another $1.75 and flown on a reputable carrier.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=530479200 Dana Scheider

    It’s a rare day when I say a sexual assault victim has received enough compensation. And I don’t think LaRue did receive enough compensation – just enough from the airline. I will never tell a victim in this situation what she “should have” done. The kind of attack LaRue experienced is traumatic and reporting it is emotionally fraught. It is not for me or anyone to judge how she dealt with this incident.

    That said though, it sounds as though the airline staff didn’t know this was going on. There’s not much the airline can do to prevent perverts from buying tickets. If the staff had known and not done anything, that would be different.

    What the airline should do, if it hasn’t, is release the man’s name so LaRue can pursue charges and/or tort claims against him. He absolutely SHOULD pay her for lost work and therapy.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=530479200 Dana Scheider

    The Department of Justice maintains that sex crimes are grievously underreported and that frivolous claims are rare. Most people find the reporting process humiliating and traumatic. I do think some form of verification would be appropriate, but frankly I would feel safer if airlines DID blacklist known sex offenders.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=530479200 Dana Scheider

    As they should. Sexual assault has a profound and lasting impact on victims’ lives and by placing a statute of limitations on reporting, we in the US are saying that, although the consequences of the assault will stay with the victim forever (even if she/he is able to heal), the attacker need only be held responsible for a few years (10 in most jurisdictions here in the states, for first-degree rape).

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=530479200 Dana Scheider

    All in all I agree and I thank you for this, but I still really don’t think the airline should compensate her beyond refunding her ticket (which was nice of them). You talk about sending a message to future assaulters, but if I were a future assaulter, the message I would get from the airline agreeing to all her requests would be that I’m not accountable for sexually assaulting someone and that somebody else will (literally) pay for my iniquities.

  • DavidS

    This is quite an old thread with a lot of comments. What you may have missed is that an airline cannot legally release the names of any passenger, even to law enforcement, without a court order. That being said, I’m sure if the OP’s attorney wished to pursue it, and the court order was obtained, Spirit would be obligated to comply.

  • Anonymous

    I cannot conceive of someone “saying or doing NOTHING” if they were touched by a stranger on a plane.  I have a “world class” scream which I have used on two occasions.  One brought 25 men to my rescue when a man took my purse (it made the papers) and another in Barbados brought the police.  But I would have whacked him with a shoe and yelled at the top of my lungs.  Believe me, I doubt he would ever touch anyone again.

  • Anonymous

    Agree.  See my post above.