A Sandals Caribbean honeymoon that makes her wish she’d eloped

Nicholas and Katherine Welch didn’t have a good honeymoon. Actually, that may be something of an understatement. It was dreadful.

The Welches thought they’d done everything right. They visited St. Lucia, which is one of the most popular honeymoon destinations in the Caribbean. It’s also a gorgeous island. And they booked through a reputable all-inclusive resort, Sandals.

“We had a horrible experience that will remain with us for our whole lives,” Katherine Welch wrote to me. “Please help us.”

Before I do, I should mention a few disclaimers. Back in 1993, as a cub reporter for Travel Weekly, I reviewed a new Sandals resort in St. Lucia. It wasn’t a positive article. The owner of Sandals, Gordon “Butch” Stewart, was so upset that he canceled his million-dollar ad buy with the magazine.

The experience was truly instructive. Honeymoons are a hundred-million dollar business, and Sandals wasn’t messing around. Neither did my employer, which promptly removed me from the Caribbean beat and banished me to covering Alaska — but that’s a whole ‘nother story.

Anyway, I wouldn’t be asking you, dear readers, if this trip can be saved if Sandals St. Lucia Halcyon had answered the Welches’ letter. So let’s get right to it.

Back in May, Nicholas Welch surprised his fiancee with a St. Lucia honeymoon. It took place Nov. 7 to 12, which is a great time to visit the island. It’s outside the most active part of hurricane season, but just before the crush of winter travelers arrives.

When they arrived at the resort, they found their honeymoon suite hadn’t been serviced. The shower head didn’t work and there was no hot water in the room for the duration of the Welches’ stay.

But what really upset the couple were the little things — what I like to refer to as “laundry list” items — that ordinary vacationers might dismiss. But a honeymoon is no ordinary vacation. You take it once, maybe twice, in your life. Everything has to be perfect, and indeed, Sandals advertises its product to honeymooners as being just about perfect.

• They had no champagne when they checked into their honeymoon suite.

• The knob kept falling off of the “fixed” shower.

• They didn’t receive notification about a sunset cruise Katherine’s parents had booked for her.

• Reservations for their candlelight dinner and couples massage got screwed up.

• They delivered the wrong breakfast in bed order to the suite.

My initial reaction in reading these complaints were, “Come on!” These are such little problems, and even the most significant one — which is that the couple had double-booked a sunset cruise and that the resort hadn’t refunded it yet — was fairly minor.

I know what a honeymoon from hell is, and this is not it. If her resort had been washed away in a hurricane, that would be a disaster. But this, to the average reader, is an average Caribbean vacation.

But not from Katherine’s perspective.

“This was our one and only honeymoon, and can never be replaced,” she told me. “We are telling all of our engaged and soon to be engaged friends to stay away from Sandals.”

Well, alright. That’s a little dramatic, but I can also see her point. She’d been sold the idea that this would be a perfect, one-of-a-kind Caribbean honeymoon, and Sandals let her down.

I’m a little surprised that Sandals didn’t respond to her letter. Had it done so, then she wouldn’t be asking me for help, and I wouldn’t be writing this and asking you if I should help. But here we are.

I don’t know how to handle this one. If all these things had happened to me on a stay in the Caribbean, I would just shrug them off. I would thank my lucky stars that the volcano didn’t erupt, that my van didn’t careen off a cliff or that my plane didn’t crash into the side of a mountain. (Now that would be serious.)

At the same time, I think the Welches were sold a product they didn’t get. And when they complained about it, they didn’t receive a timely answer. That’s not the way you want your honeymoon to end, is it?

Update (6 p.m.): Sandals has responded to the couple’s complaint. It sheds some additional light on their experience.

Thank you for your correspondence with regards to your experiences during your honeymoon with us in November this year. In order for honeymooners to receive the honeymoon package on arrival, we must receive information prior to arrival, indicating they are honeymooners. We had no prior information that you were on your honeymoon. However, when the matter was brought to our attention the package was extended to you the day after your arrival.

During your stay with us, we were experiencing some problems with the hot water line which resulted in the problems you encountered with the hot water. Although the hotel has a preventative maintenance program in place from time to time there may be problems with faucets etc. We apologise for any inconvenience this may have caused.

The Candlelight dinner and massage were booked for the La Toc Resort. You were informed that the menu would have to be obtained from La Toc or you would have to go to the resort to choose the menu. You decided to have it sent to the resort and that was the reason for the delay.

It is regrettable that you were not informed, prior to you booking the tour that your mother prepaid a Sunset Cruise for you. This resulted in the two tours overlapping. As a goodwill gesture you were given a fifty percent discount off the Joe Knows Tour. Your parents were refunded via credit card, numbers ending 8383, on November 17th for the Sunset Cruise which she paid for.

You informed Mr. George that in order to “ease the sting” there is a bowl in the resort shop costing $29.99 which you wanted, that was given to you complimentary.

At Sandals we are cognizant of the fact that a couple’s honeymoon is no doubt a once in a life time occasion to celebrate the bliss of marriage and for this reason we make every effort to ensure that clients are as comfortable as possible. We are disappointed that your stay was not one hundred percent reflective of our usually high standards, but we hope that upon reflection of the positive aspects you will give us another opportunity to ensure you enjoy the true Sandals experience.

The letter is dated Dec. 9.

(Photo: Or bitalj oe/Flickr)

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_4PDSGTE6V2IARAUWDA7HLHPGNA Scot

    Sorry Folks, I disagree. I have stayed at Sandals on 4 different occasions. What is advertised is not delivered. Katherine is absolutely right. Sandals has consistently mis advertised for years. Check out some of the complaints on Tripadvisor.com and you will see that the services offered are deseptive.
    Scot

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_4AMV2JHTEN5BWPEEO6NTSXY6SA ChrisP

    IF there was no hot water for an entire week, then yes.

    But it only gets a mention in their letter.  Were they able to shower? Bathe?  Was the hot water REALLY not working, or could it have possibly been not enough hot water, or that it wasn’t hot enough?

    I don’t buy that honeymooners willingly spent their honeymoon in a room for a week with NO hot water.

    And, unless Chris E says otherwise, they didn’t even bring it up with the resort during their stay.

  • Anonymous

    Unless the
    venue is run by some third world trekking company, it’s against the law to let
    a room without hot water.

    Will sandals
    start a new advertising campaign: come visit us for the trip of a lifetime–pay thousands
    and the following items may or may not work…

  • Anonymous

    The bad publicity is sufficient enough.  They should have seen the manager (not the assistant) early on in their stay to rectify the minor problems.   A short hand-written note to the manager usually gets prompt attention. 

  • http://profiles.google.com/chazowen Charles Owen

    As I was reading this, I kept thinking about another column I had read a while back listing 5 travel complaints that fail. One was the “laundry list”. Oh, yeah, I remember where I saw that: http://www.elliott.org/the-travel-critic/travel-complaints-that-fail-5-kinds-of-emails-you-should-never-write/  I’m surprised Chris didn’t reference his own page here. The major problem was the lack of hot water. That’s just not acceptable at any hotel. The rest made this in to the laundry list complaint that Chris himself said in the previous column will fail.

  • Anonymous

    May we know why you kept on coming back (3 times)?

  • Anonymous

    I voted that you should intervene, though I am more worried about the future of this marriage than I am about how Sandals disappointed the bride and groom. Looking back on close to 40 years of marriage, one abiding piece of good fortune is that neither of us ever saw (or at least didn’t continue to see) any single disappointment as the end of the world. Yes, I know honeymoons should be once-in-a-lifetime experiences but this furious sense of victimhood bodes ill for how man and wife will contend with each other’s disappointing moments.

  • Anonymous

    Agree. I don’t why it is that hard to fix a plumbing issue or why they
    just didn’t move the couple to another room. But I have to believe that
    some hotels really don’t care and will try to pull a fast one. Last
    Christmas we were in Granada (Spain) and my kid’s room did not have hot
    water. After I complained I found out that the hotel management knew the
    problem for quite a while but they did not fix it due to the “economic
    downturns besetting Europe”. Yup, that’s what they told me. I explained
    to them that we’re Americans and we also have our own share of economic problems but hot water is not one of them. They quickly moved my kids to another room.

  • http://profiles.google.com/leeannewrites LeeAnne Clark

    And while I don’t mean to pile onto the poor beleaguered newlyweds, I wanted to also point out that I really think people make way too big a deal about honeymoons. Look, it’s not the 18th century anymore, when the honeymoon was usually the first time that a couple actually had :::gasp::: marital relations so the trip was seen as something magical, once-in-a-lifetime, wink-wink-nudge-nudge.

    These days, especially in the US, most weddings are not much more than a legal formality (and a reason to have a big ol’ party and take a fun vacation) for a couple who’ve been at least sleeping if not living together for a long time already. Yes it’s lovely to take a nice trip to celebrate the event, but let’s face it – it’s just a vacation. If the couple stays together, presumably there will be many more to come.

    So this one wasn’t so great. Start saving now and plan a trip somewhere else…and this time, do your homework and pick a place with better reviews.

  • Anonymous

    1) A honeymoon is simply a vacation, despite what the Bridal-Industrial Complex has tried to tell you.You hope it’s a nice one without complications, but life is what happens when you make plans. And booking a stay in the Caribbean doesn’t guarantee a great time.  In fact, most of our friends envy us our domestic honeymoon in the Finger Lakes region of New York.  Who needs champagne in your suite when the wineries waive your tasting fees? ;)2) “A perfect, one-of-a-kind honeymoon” and Sandals Resorts don’t go together.  It’s a generic Caribbean vacation spot.3) Welches – if you’re reading – here is my wedding gift to you, and it’s one you can use all your life.When you find yourself in a situation where you are getting bad service, don’t get histrionic or dramatic.  Simply look the employee in the eye and firmly and quietly state “I’m sorry, that’s not acceptable.”  Repeat – up the chain of command if necessary and with utter calm conviction – until your *reasonable* requests addressed.So for things like the honeymoon suite not being serviced, the faulty shower and the reservations?  These are the perfect situations to use this method.The champagne part?  If you were just expecting it because it was the “Honeymoon” suite, then you have to realize that people can book that suite without it being their honeymoon.  If it was part of the package, then see the “not acceptable” route.As for the breakfast – unless they brought you something that tripped food allergies or cost significantly less than what you ordered, let that one go.  It’s food and at that point, it should have been a “so bad it’s good” thing.  I know when things pile up like that for my husband and I, we start to giggle like maniacs.The one that I see as the most problematic is the non-notification of the cruise.  I’m sure that was a paid extra, and unless Mrs. Welch’s mother got her money back, that one should be mediated.

  • http://profiles.google.com/fox1066 Susan Fox

    I should have waited to vote until after I read the update. I can understand, to some extent, why she was upset, especially not havig hot water the whole time, but to shake down the gift shop guy for $30 bowl? That is beyond classless. Sandals should have responded in a timely manner, but she sounds like a spoiled tootsie to me.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_HMW3OTJSBDWWRKIEKEKWWM7BEA bc

    Because, like most Sandals customers he shopped based on price, and you get what you pay for. 

  • http://twitter.com/Thalassatx Linda Tomberlin

    Having read the response from Sandals, I say OH NO to mediating this!  She wanted a freaking bowl?  A $30 bowl??  Well there you go, lady.  You’ve got your stinking bowl.  I feel for her poor husband.

  • Ann Lamoy

    So it looks like some of the laundry list of complaints were the fault of the husband.

    -No champagne at check-in? “In order for honeymooners to receive the honeymoon package on arrival,
    we must receive information prior to arrival, indicating they are
    honeymooners. We had no prior information that you were on your
    honeymoon. However, when the matter was brought to our attention the
    package was extended to you the day after your arrival.” So if hubby dearest had said “This is for our honeymoon when he booked, there probably would have been champagne.

    -The Sunset Cruise that the parents booked? Maybe the parents booked it under her maiden name. Even if they didn’t, the resort acknowledged the error, gave them a 50% discount on the cruise they booked and paid for AND refunded the parents. So I think they were more than adequately compensated for that error.

    -The Dinner reservation and couples massage that got screwed up? ” You were informed that the menu would have to be obtained from La Toc
    or you would have to go to the resort to choose the menu. You decided to
    have it sent to the resort and that was the reason for the delay.” So totally her fault yet she is blaming the resort for the error? No sweetie, the customer is NOT always right. Even so, she managed to con a $30 bowl out of the resort. I hate when management gives in to customers like this.

    They did address the lack of hot water which was a problem. It’s not like the resort planned on the problem though. And if she hadn’t had such a entitle tone throughout her letter, I would have been more inclined to really say that you should mediate for her. But really? Two of the three problems above were not even the resorts fault and the third might or might not have been and they resolved it on the spot/shortly thereafter (parents card refunded on 11/17).

    As for the wrong breakfast? Did she even call down and complain? I think they were looking for things to go wrong at this point.

  • Anonymous

    Thank you for posting the update to the story, Chris.  I like having both sides to a story.

  • Anonymous

    Only time for a quick read. I don’t recall the information about thecomped bowl in the original story. Was this a detail left out in editing?

  • Anonymous

     I agree…I like to have both sides of the story.  Too many times, we don’t have both sides of the story in these articles only to find out later that OP wasn’t disclosing all of the facts. 

  • Anonymous

     After reading the 6:00 PM update, I think that Chris should throw out the voting results and do another vote. 

  • http://profiles.google.com/leeannewrites LeeAnne Clark

    Totally agree! What a couple of whiny, entitled nit-pickers. I call for a re-vote! Christopher should send these two back to whatever hole they crawled out of. I’m thoroughly disgusted.

  • http://profiles.google.com/leeannewrites LeeAnne Clark

    After reading the update (the letter from Sandals), my opinion has dramatically changed. While I already thought they were histrionic, nit-picky whiners before I read the letter, now I think they are flat-out deceitful scammers, trying to use Christopher to squeeze more out of this resort after a few minor annoyances on their trip.

    The fact that the Katherine Welch basically shook them down for a bowl from the gift shop pretty much says it all. How inappropriate! I guess some people will use any excuse to pad their pockets.

    I’m sure this couple were well aware that her mother had received a full refund for the pre-paid cruise, since it happened on Nov. 17th. They also obviously knew that they’d received a 50% discount off another tour as compensation for that error (and apparently didn’t bother to mention that to Christopher.) They also clearly knew that they were at fault for the supposed “screw-ups” with their massage and dinner reservations (I’d wondered why the description of those complaints was so vague – now we know it’s because it was their own fault!) They got their honeymoon package one day late – BFD, and not the hotel’s fault anyway.

    The sole remaining complaint with any validity whatsoever is the hot water issue – which, yes, is valid. And if they hadn’t made such a big deal over all the minor issues, and then shaken the resort down for a BOWL, and THEN tried to scam Christopher into wasting his precious time trying to squeeze even more out of them, I would have had some sympathy and suggested that at least a partial refund is in order.

    But these are nightmare customers, and I’m sorry that I believed them. They remind me of the cruising couple who made an art form out of scamming Royal Caribbean cruise line out of paybacks and extras for manufactured complaints.

    Christopher, this has helped me to understand how hard it must be for you to decide who to help. I’m sure most of the requests you get sound like valid ones deserving your assistance…but how many of them are hiding the truth, leaving out important details, or flat-out lying? I’m glad I don’t have your job…but thanks for continuing to be there for the customers with REAL service issues.

    I do hope you told these two you weren’t going to participate in their shake-down scheme, and moved on to more deserving clients.

  • Nigel Appleby

    I voted yes after a lot of deliberation and oscillating backwards and forwards and then read the update. If I had read that first I would have voted no from the get go without any hesitation.
    I gree that a new vote should be taken, or in my opinion as the result is fairly close accept what Sandals has said and done.

  • http://elliott.org Christopher Elliott

    I didn’t know about the bowl. Had I known, I probably wouldn’t have written about this case.

  • Anonymous

    Sandals is the K-Mart of resort companies; you get what you pay for.

  • Anonymous

    I think this is a case of an over-entitled, whining costumer who can get involved in transactions involving more than purchasing a physical item off-the-shelf. Maybe, not even that, as they shook the hotel to get the bawl for free.

    The lack of hot water was most certainly an issue, a serious one, indeed. If the letter revolved around it, I’d be sympathetic to the couple or any other guest at that resort, regardless of whether it the fault was due to lack of maintenance, some broken pipe or else.

    However, from the reply I can see the couple tried to play dumb and get every possible handout from the situation. It is another version of that person that, having spotted a water leak in a restaurant, make sure they walk over the wet floor before employees cordon it off so to fall and then claim pain and suffering payments.

    Then, it became clear the couple was at fault for the other already minor mistakes. Overall, it seems one of those (rare) cases in which the costumer not only got it wrong, but also tried to “name and shame” the resort, using Christopher as an amplifier. It is possible they felt aggravated because of the lack of hot water, but that is not an excuse to act the way they did.

  • Anonymous

    Just read the update…
    She conned the gift shop out of a bowl?!!??! LOL, this one gets better by the minute. 

    While I’m totally NOT a fan of Sandals, it sounds like they went above and beyond to make these people happy despite their complaints. I’ll stand by what I said earlier: BRIDEZILLA needs to put her big girl panties on and grow the F up.

  • Anonymous

    They really should have researched the resort before booking, and consequently, I don’t feel as sorry for people who have a bad experience at Sandals.  My wife and I also honeymooned in St. Lucia.  We were about to book at Sandals, but the more research we conducted, the more apprehensive we became.  We ended up booking at a much smaller resort whose worst comment was “there are too many steps.”  On our flight down there, 75% of the plane was filled with newlyweds going to Sandals, and only 3 couples going to our resort.  In the end, we had a PERFECT honeymoon.  Research pays off, especially at all-inclusive resorts.  After doing enough reading, you begin to pick out the whiners from the legitimate complaints.

  • Anonymous

    WOW.  The bride sounds a bit of a complainer.  Glad I was not the husband on that trip.  Certainly not the best of trips, but they have the rest of their life together to “laugh at it” — providing she can overcome her attitude. 

  • Anonymous

    Raven_Altosk — yes.  I agree with you 100%.  

  • Diana Smith

    I think honeymoon is incomplete with out beeches..I am also planning to go to Cyprus in January..I already booked Cyprus Villas(Villasrentcyprus.co.uk) for 3 nights and 4 Days..I am very excited my trip to Cyprus…

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_V2IYC4TC6NDYG5GJJMQBMQ3HYQ Linda Bator

    WOW!  The update CLEARLY shows a DIVA!  They don’t tell anyone they’re on their honeymoon, but the hotel should have known?  You book a meal for another resort, and want the menu sent over, and expect it to be there immediately?  Your mother didn’t TELL you she booked the tour you wanted, and you went ahead and booked it, and its the hotel’s fault?  They give you a gift, because you WANTED it, and that’s still not enough?  Dude – dump this bridezilla – she’s FAR too high maintenance!  

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_V2IYC4TC6NDYG5GJJMQBMQ3HYQ Linda Bator

    WOW!  The update CLEARLY shows a DIVA!  They don’t tell anyone they’re on their honeymoon, but the hotel should have known?  You book a meal for another resort, and want the menu sent over, and expect it to be there immediately?  Your mother didn’t TELL you she booked the tour you wanted, and you went ahead and booked it, and its the hotel’s fault?  They give you a gift, because you WANTED it, and that’s still not enough?  Dude – dump this bridezilla – she’s FAR too high maintenance!  

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_V2IYC4TC6NDYG5GJJMQBMQ3HYQ Linda Bator

    They DID bend over backwards for them – ridiculous clients!!!

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_V2IYC4TC6NDYG5GJJMQBMQ3HYQ Linda Bator

    Sounds like the issue wasn’t no hot water, but a water line (pressure) problem.  And since she only mentioned this in passing, not as WE DIDN’T HAVE HOT WATER ALL WEEK!  I tend to believe she stretched the truth on this claim as well.  Just another bridezilla.

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_V2IYC4TC6NDYG5GJJMQBMQ3HYQ Linda Bator

    Like here!  :)

  • http://pulse.yahoo.com/_V2IYC4TC6NDYG5GJJMQBMQ3HYQ Linda Bator

    HAHA!!  Couldn’t agree more!  With all the real problems that could have happened, THIS was her nightmare honeymoon?  Only for her hubby IMHO.

  • Anonymous

    Not sure my comment was posted, Diana.  But, I’ve been to most of the best beaches in the world — all over the Caribbean, Hawaii, Rio, and, my favorite, Tahiti.  Bora Bora.  Water goes from pale green near the shore to deepest navy blue far out.  I have become allergic to the sun and now must view my Power Point of Tahiti because I can’t go any more.

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